There’s an old, outdated assumption that time mends all wounds. But I believe this to be untrue. In the words of Dr. Phil,. We are all more than capable of taking control back into our own hands when life knocks us down. It’s just a matter of doing so intentionally. Of attaining changes that will move us forward. Of finding a way to progress with purpose, rather than simply letting life knock us around into whoever we will become next. When you’re feeling lost and disheartened with life, here are 26 simple methods of taking your power back.
1. Get In Shape.
Strong bodies and strong intellects run hand-in-hand. Keep forgetting how your workout routine is attaining you seem and start focusing on how it builds you feel on the strength, the dedication and the structure that it brings to your mindset. By harnessing your physical power, youre reminding yourself that youre capable of so much more than you used to be. In the words of Jillian Michaels,.
2. Get out of township.
Take a day, a week or a month to escape your usual surroundings and welcome in the world outside your doorstep. Sometimes a change in mindset is as easy as a change in scenery and being away from home allows you the space, the freedom and the tranquility to mend on your own terms.
3. Rewrite your story.
The past is nothing more than a tale we recur to ourselves and allowing ourselves to understand this is an incredibly liberating notion. Visit a narrative therapist who can help you re-frame your experiences, or journal them out until youre able to come to a new understanding of why things happened the route they did. Learn to pinpoint the opportunities for growth within the destruction of your past and then move forward with those opportunities close to your heart.
4. Invite new people into your life.
The positive effect we are able to have on each other as humans is immeasurable. Sometimes the best route to mend from the toxicity of past relationships is to allow the beauty of new ones to flourish. We all end up supposing, behaving and being like the person or persons we spend the most day around so choose the ones who attain you want to be the best possible version of yourself.
5. Tell your tale.
Be honest about your past. Share the pain of everything that’s happened to you and allow your strength in moving past it to inspire other people. Don’t hide or downplay anything that feels important to you. Refuse to apologize for where you’ve been.
6. Be disciplined about self-care.
When were sick, we take particular care to rest, drink liquids and take medicine even if it temporarily obstructs on our productivity. When were struggling emotionally, we have to take care of ourselves in much of the same way. By attaining self-care a priority, you are defining yourself up for a quicker and endlessly less painful recovery.
7. Change your appearance.
Sometimes we need a deliberate outward change to reflect a subtle internal one. By altering your hair, makeup or style, youre concretely greeting change into your life and recognizing that it can be a good thing. In fact, it can even be something that happens on your own terms.
8. Quit what isnt working for you.
When the stakes are down and our lives are lying in shambles, we are paradoxically awarded the ideal opportunity to start over. Use your ill fortune as the excuse youve “re waiting for” to walk away from that shitty job, toxic relationship or commitment that is attaining you miserable. If youre going to be forced to start over, you might as well do it once, the right way.
9. Give yourself permission to let go.
Not everything that happens to us has to have a meaning or a lesson. If your past no longer serves you, give yourself permission to let go and keep forgetting the pain that has been holding you back. You dictate your tale and you dont have to place emphasis on anything that builds you feel small.
10. Connect with people whove been through something similar.
Seek out the words, company and conveniences of those who understand what youre “re going through”. Read their narratives, cherish the wisdom theyve gleaned and use it as a constant, pervasive reminder that you are never alone.
11. Unplug for an entire week.
If you are able to do so, take a full week of your life and spend it outdoors or on the road, somewhere where your Facebook notifications cant reaching you. Sometimes it takes disconnecting from your everyday life to realise how trivial most of your worries are and how capable you are of existing altogether outside of them.
12. Physically de-clutter your life.
Take a full weekend to clean your apartment or home in a way that you never have before ruthlessly ridding it of everything you no longer use and organizing it in a way that feels mentally refreshing. When our physical surroundings are in order, it becomes easier to keep our intellects uncluttered, too.
13. Strengthen your relationships with the people who love you.
A close friend once told me Theres no time like when youre down on your luck to realise whos truly there for you in life. When everything is falling apart, take notice of who is still standing beside you those are the people who are always going to matter the most. And theres no time like the present to appreciate them for all theyre worth.
14. Follow the food guide for a month.
Even the healthiest among us arent always putting the right foods into our bodies. So for one month, to continue efforts to do so. Feed the right amounts of fruits, veggies, grains, dairy and meat( or meat alternatives ). Notice changes in your energy level and mindset and then try it all over again the next month.
15. Take a course that teaches you something new.
What we know changes the landscape of who we are. By adding to your internal database of knowledge, you are expanding your horizons and reminding yourself that there is always more to be learned and always more styles for your worldview to shift.
16. Stimulate a budget and stick to it.
Its difficult to feel in control of our lives when our finances are out of control. By coming face-to-face with our spending habits, were devoting ourselves a leg up on subduing them effectively. Theres nothing quite as allaying as figuring out a route to live below your entails.
17. Establish a healthy source of validation.
None of us are islands. Though we all strive to be strong, independent adults in our day-to-day lives, we all require love and affection. And procuring a friend or loved one who is willing to remind you why youre wonderful when you forget it only might be what maintains you afloat on the bad days. Validation is not toxic if youre attempting it in the right places.
18. Become invested in the process of change , not the outcome.
Too often, we pit all of our hopes on future accomplishments that may never come to fruition. Rather than telling yourself learn to find pleasure in the simple process of bettering yourself. Take pride in the fact that youre making changes for yourself, rather than pitting your happiness on the outcome of those changes.
19. Learn a new speech.
Learning a new speech may be one of the best available ways to remind yourself that theres an entire world out there one that operates on a quite different premise than yours. Perpetrating to learning a non-native speech demonstrates that you could accommodate and mould to one of those other realities if you wanted to which consequently builds you feel a little less defeated by yours.
20. Learn to walk away.
Perhaps the single most important step to regaining control over your life comes through learning to walk away from the situations that are holding you back. It takes an incredible sum of bravery to break away from what youve known. But it also dedicates route to an incredible opportunity to start over the route youve always wanted to.
21. Let yourself be happier than you are comfy with.
Too often, we sabotage our own happiness out of a reluctance to trust it. Rather than letting ourselves to grow into bigger shoes, we declare our feet not big enough and retreat. We have to start letting ourselves to let go of remorse and self-doubt and start seizing opportunities as they develop. Even if we feel a little bit out of our league along the way.
22. Set and enforce bounds.
There will eternally be people out there who are willing to rob you of your pleasure in exchange for a dose of their toxicity. And one of the biggest lessons we may ever have to learn is that we cannot save those people from themselves. We have to learn to defined clear bounds if we dont wishes to drown alongside them. Even if its someone we love.
23. Cut out a vice for 100 days.
The idea of never drinking, smoking or eating junk food again is an intimidating enough mission for any of us to give up on before weve even get started. So instead of resolving to cut out one of your vices eternally, try cutting one out for 100 days. It is enough time for you to see the positive affects of what youve done, but a short enough time for the end to always be in sight. And who knows maybe once you realize how great you feel without one of your vices, it will turn into a permanent lifestyle change.
24. Try something that genuinely scares you.
There is nothing that boosts confidence quite like overcoming your anxieties. Stimulate a deliberate point to take over a challenge that has always frightened you when youre feeling down though it may seem like ridiculous timing to do so, the strength and sense of self-efficacy that will come from subduing your worries will take you further than you could possibly imagine.
25. Look at how far you have come.
Look back at the person who was once so lost and then look at who youve become since then. You may not be all the way to where youd like to be, but youre on your route. And youre a hell of a lot further than you used to be.
26. Forgive others. Forgive the Universe. Forgive yourself.
Dont allow rage or dread to keep you trapped in a damaging past. Let yourself the opportunity to forgive those who have hurt you, to forgive the injustices done to you and to forgive yourself for everything you messed up on your track to redemption. Forgive not to alleviate other people of accountability, but to finally allow yourself the freedom and space to move on. And to take your damn life back.